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From Dogma to Dating

Impossible? I’m Possible & So are You! 

On December 16, 2017 what seemed like a pipe dream after 27 years of dating (started dating when I was 17); I received my first “real” & hopefully last marriage proposal!  

I am sure my parents broke out the champagne & praised the Lord for something they also figured would never happen. 

I was single for most of my 20s and 30s, more single than in relationships, and the relationships I were in for the most part were shallow with an idealism of what can the person offer me, and not so much the other way around. 

 In meeting my fiancé Brian he was the first guy in many years to not put up with my crap, but also not to give up on me. I think in my initial meeting with Brian, I was wondering what he could do for me and I went through the various check marks of wanting a professional – check, good income – check, well educated – check, good grammar – check, good relationship with mother – check, check, check…  Shallow checks, but what I didn’t bargain for was an incredibly emotionally intelligent kind soul.  Pssssst, I assumed the horns would come out, but they never did.

Funny enough, what Brian finds most attractive about me is my authenticity, but I believe Brian demands my authenticity. I cannot get away with my cutesy bootsie manipulative ways or trying to get a reaction out of him; he always calls me out on my bad behavior, yet, he is incredibly kind and patient with me. 

Before falling in love with Brian, I was a bit of a mess, I was trying to protect my heart and show a façade of what I wanted Brian to see, but that is the beauty of authenticity it tends to bring out the sincerity of others too. I am incredibly blessed that someone took a chance on me, which forced me to take a chance on them, as I probably would have continued down the road of finding faults in a plethora of men and faking it without never making it. 

I never dreamt that I would be 44 years old marrying for the first time.  I still have more songs picked out for my funeral than I do for my wedding.  I was ready to throw the towel in & just accept my single status as I was happy for the most part. I wanted to meet someone, but I knew & know it isn’t the end all & be all to be with someone.  However, being able to share yourself & your love with a best friend is pretty epic. 

If it can happened to me.  Golly & goodness, it can happen to anyone.  

For all the heinous first dates, one first date finally paid off.  And there were a heap of bad first dates…. Man oh man, a heap…

No date set yet, but I will be a Bride on a Budget 😉 

Peace & love – Rachel


Weight Watchers – Three Months Later

On October 22, 2017 I joined Weight Watchers online, and the first three weeks were HELL. I ain’t gonna lie! My body went through some mega sugar withdrawals, and if you are already a member, you will know what I mean, and if you are becoming a member, you will know what I mean soon enough. As much of the premise behind Smart Points is making “smart” choices and if you want to see your points sky rocket, choose something high in sugar, or even mid amount of sugar! Almost every Oikos Greek Yoghurt is four Smart Points (SPs) and when I do eat one, I am sticking my finger in and scraping the edges to make sure I get every teeniest amount of yoghurt in that container. When you only have a daily allotment of 23 SPs a four point snack is 17% of your SPs for the day. 

Above is an example of a four Smart Points breakfast; two hard boiled eggs (0 SPs) and lots of fresh salsa (0SPs) and 1/2 an avocado (4 SPs).  This particular breakfast fills me up & gives me loads of energy until lunch time!

Right before Christmas Weight Watchers introduced the “Freestyle” which has over 200 zero point foods, so you can eat endless amounts of chicken breasts, eggs, beans, fruit, veggies and this plan is really pushing me away from processed foods which is a good thing. However, it is challenging too, as I have a busy work life, where many times at the end of a hectic day in the office, I don’t feel like cooking, and if you only have eight to ten SPs left in your day, it isn’t reasonable that you will find a filing meal which is premade. I am finding this plan requires a lot of meal prepping which is fine, but I don’t always have time or I procrastinate to the point where I am just like “meh, I will figure it out”. 


I have found on the Freestyle I am going over my daily 23 SPs frequently and dipping into my “weeklies” which really I would prefer to save for something more fun such as wine or a cheat meal. Smart Points add up quickly once you hit processed foods, even good for you foods, so let’s say you have a serving of Mary’s Organic Crackers (which I love), a serving is four SPs, what if I want a piece of cheese with my crackers, that is another two to three SPs. Six to seven SPs for a snack which will be inhaled in less than ten minutes (more like ten seconds!) is not worth it to me. I am constantly asking the question “Is it worth it?”. 


I love that eggs are Zero Smart Points!!!

I have moments of resentment. Damn you Weight Watchers!!!! I am kidding. It is working, and I am not sure if others find it easy, as I don’t. However, I have lost a total of 11 lbs. which is pretty cool! I want to lose at least 20 more lbs. I know I can do it, the plan works when you stick with it and follow the rules, but sometimes I fall. It has been three months, and I am sure if I had been more disciplined, I could have lost more, but for now, I am slowly chipping away at my unwanted weight. 

 Most recent weigh in indicates I am now down 13 pounds!  So, I am pleased, but I was on vacation for two weeks and I am worried some over indulging will come to haunt me! 

Taken last night as my fiancé took me out for a three course Italian meal.  I am now -25 for my weeklies!  

Tomorrow is a new day! 

Peace & love – Rachel



Weight Loss Goals! 

What are my goals for losing weight? I would like to optimally lose 30 lbs., but my goal isn’t to be skinny, I want to be healthy and strong. Muscle weighs more than fat, and I am doing some weight and strength training, so what the scales tell me isn’t necessarily going to dictate my weight goal. 

Another goal for me is to fit into some clothing I haven’t been able to wear for a long time. I have a dress I had made in Thailand in 2008 which I haven’t been able to wear in over five years, it is beautiful and classic; I don’t want to just give it away. I also have a suit which is made with vintage fabric by a local designer in Nova Scotia, it reminds me of something Jackie O might wear back in the day. The jacket fits me, but the skirt is too small for my hips and middle part. I also have a beautiful black blazer which is a size 8 and is a bit too snug, made in Canada by a Canadian Designer. So, yes, I would like to be able to fit in these fine threads. 

 My wardrobe is pretty classic and I avoid trends as I like to watch my money and also I believe the high turnover of trendy fashion to be contributing to the destruction of the environment. Plus, fast fashion is generally not ethical to our neighboring sisters who work in the garment industry. If I can lose the weight I would like to lose, my wardrobe will expand quite a bit as I will be able to fit into some clothing I truly adore and is collecting dust in my closet.


Another goal is to be able to wear a bikini and not feel the need to run as fast as I can to jump in the ocean so nobody sees my jiggly parts. I would like to be able to wear a striped shirt and not have to worry about how my belly looks. I would like to be able to wear a crop top (however I just wouldn’t wear one at my age!), but if I had to wear one, I would like to be able to wear one with confidence. 

A huge goal for me is I want to be able to have a full body shot taken at any random time and not be worried about how I am going to look in the picture, or hope that someone doesn’t tag me on Facebook because my stomach is protruding or my arm looks more like a leg. I am hoping the strength and weight training will add some shape to my arms, and losing the weight will show off the definition more.   

I want to be fit and have nothing hanging out. I want to be healthy and continue to be active too. I see my parents whom I am super blessed to still have them as they are both 81 years old, but they are both obese and for the most part sedentary. I believe a lot of the health issues they have encountered in their older years is because of the extra weight their body frames were never designed to carry. My Mom has developed Type Two Diabetes, which she doesn’t have to have, but at 81 she cannot be bothered to make the effort to change. If I am so blessed to make it to 81 someday, I want to be able to enjoy it! I want to be able to travel with no health concerns to contend with when I am older.


Being fit and able to fit into my older clothing isn’t just about vanity, but it has a lot to do with preparing for a healthy future. I am not looking to become a size two or four (I don’t physically think my bone structure can even allow that!), but I do want to be a healthy size eight. I want to look good, as let’s face it when you look good, you feel good about yourself too. 


These are my weight loss goals! Some may read the above and think wow, those are some weak goals, and others may think I am over ambitious, but no one needs to concern themselves with my goals. My goals are what I want for me, and have nothing to do with anyone else, as they should be! If you are thinking about doing your own weight loss fitness journey, when you set some goals for yourself, make sure you make them for you! Once you hit your goals, you may want to reassess and create some more, or you may want to dial it back a bit. It is entirely up to you! What are your weight loss or fitness goals? I would love to know & join you on your journey! 


Peace and love – Rachel

Ending 2017 with Intention

I must give credit where credit is due so I want to share what blogger and author Cait Flanders shared with her readers from Daisy for “No Sidebar” , which is ten questions I have copied below to end the 2017 intentionally. I encourage all of you to visit the URL I pasted in the previous sentence, and to answer and reflect on your 2017.  

2017 was generally good to me, but after answering the ten questions, I realized how I could have made it a better year for myself. I hope if you do decide to take the time to answer these questions, they will also help you realize how much power you hold in making your day to day life more meaningful and intentional. 

What makes this year unforgettable?

Miracle of miracles, I became engaged to my love Brian of two years and a bit. When I initially turned 42 years old in early August of 2015, I was speaking with Brian, but he was dating someone else, previous to a trip I took with my Mom in May 2015 he was dating another girl. I assumed he was just another player, dangling the proverbial carrot baiting me to hang on. After dating a variety of men which rarely went past a first date, I had finally resigned to the “fact” I would be single for the rest of my life, and after all the jerks I had met or general let downs, I was okay with it. I couldn’t forget Brian, he was so eloquent with his words, wrote in full sentences (good grammar & spelt words correctly – YOU KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT), he was my wizard of words oozing with the stuff I love intellect, wit and a true gentleman. I stayed in touch with him despite reeling from the rejection of someone getting to him first and twice before I could! Thankfully, he wasn’t happy and couldn’t stop thinking of me, so we had our first date on October 9, 2015 and the rest is histoire.

So, for all the ladies out there, who think finding love past 40 is impossible (what is the stat??? you are more likely to be attacked by a terrorist than marry), it isn’t impossible. I like to say if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone, and anyone who truly knows me – knows if there is hope for me, there is hope for anyone.

What did you enjoy doing this year?

Funny enough, I have enjoyed purging and challenging myself to let go of items I have held onto for a long time. I am always picking up items and contemplating their relevancy to contributing positively to my life. Having less stuff is truly liberating. 

What/who is the one thing/person you’re grateful for?

The one person I am most grateful for besides my fiancé is my Mom. This Christmas, my Mom wasn’t feeling well, so I helped a lot around the house with preparing meals, cleaning, tidying, and doing other chores. I always knew my Mom was a strong woman, but with my Dad’s health declining, I saw how much he relies on her, and how much effort she has to put in so that he is able to stay home with her in their house. I have so much respect for her, and despite her driving me crazy with questions and incessant nagging about trivial matters, I love her with all of my heart, and she still has time to help the poor, and make sandwiches for church functions. She is a Saint as far as I am concerned.   

What’s your biggest win this year?

My biggest win this year is trying to focus on the people who love me and matter the most, and letting go of those who don’t care much about me, and realizing it is okay if everyone doesn’t like me. What is most important is do I like me? I do like me, I am not perfect by any means, I am still growing, and still learning, but all in all, I like who I am. 

What did you read/watch/listen to that made the most impact this year?

The documentary on fast fashion “The True Cost” directed by Andrew Morgan and produced by Livia Firth. It devastated me, made me sick to my stomach I was living in such ignorance. I blogged about this amazing documentary which features Colin Firth’s wife, Livia Firth, and designer Stella McCartney, along with others. The True Cost brought to light regardless of how amazing a deal may be appear, nothing is worth the cost of someone else’s safety or equitable wages. Not to mention how fast fashion is essentially disposable fashion and where does this all go, it ends up in landfills and the process to make cheap clothing ends up polluting our waters and earth. When I do shop now, I am trying my very best to only purchase ethically sourced/sustainable clothing. I do care where my clothing is made who makes it. I hope being ethical when it comes to fashion becomes a new trend, and perhaps we can put an end to fast fashion, or at least slow it down, as it is destroying lives and harming the earth.   

Me in my sustainably sourced down feather vest by Patagonia (no geese were harmed in the production of this vest) & my second hand thrift shop striped top! 

What did you worry about most and how did it turn out?

For 2017, my number one worry was relocating out West for a career opportunity which presented itself to Brian. Not to go into too much detail, Brian declined the offer, but for a month, I was miserable with worry as he went through the process of interviews and we discussed the different options of us being temporarily separated until his condo sold, and I worried about finding employment once I relocated, and making new friends. All for nothing I worried, which was also a great lesson for me. In the famous lyrics of Guns N Roses “Mr. Brownstone”, “I don’t worry about nothin’ cuz worryin’ is a waste o’ my time”. 

What was your biggest regret and why?

My biggest regret is not believing in myself more and allowing other’s opinions and words to impact my career aspirations. No one has the right to tell anyone what they can or cannot do. 

 If I want to do something, I can make sure I learn how to do it, and do it well. I bombed an interview not based on my answers, but the lack of confidence I gave in presenting my answers.  I know my abilities, and I know my work ethic, but in the end I was essentially told I lacked the confidence to be effective in the role. Know yourself and believe in yourself, no one knows you as well as you know yourself and what you can and cannot do. 

What’s one thing that changed about yourself?

I am learning to say no and I am learning to trust myself, I am not quite there, but I tend to be a people pleaser and take on things I don’t want to do out of guilt. I also tend to be influenced by others opinions which have more often than not have turned out to be wrong. I have said no more than I used to without having to fib around the whys I have said no. Still need to work on this. 

What surprised you the most this year?

If I am 100% honest, Trump continuing to be the President of the United States for close to one year and how he is able to get away with being so “WOW” – let’s just leave it at that. 

Also, the “Me Too” movement, which surprises me in a couple of ways… I have never considered myself to be a feminist, but this year I have found myself feeling very much in the “girl power” mode and proud to be a woman. I am pleasantly surprised by the actual repercussions which have been implemented upon sexual predators in the public spot light. I am proud of all of my 
“sisters” who have come forward and shared their stories with the general public, instead of hiding in shame and fear. Women are taking back their power in a huge way, which gives the loud statement of “We’re not going to take it anymore and don’t mess with us”. I have never been more proud to be a woman than I am this year of 2017. 

If you could go back to last January 1, what suggestions would you give your past self?

I am constantly growing and learning, as we all are. If I could go back to January 1st, 2017, I would tell myself to be positive and encouraging to Brian in pursuing his dreams, to keep my fears and anxieties to myself, as I sadly believe I helped cost him a wonderful career opportunity as he was worried about my happiness. I would tell myself to not waste time worrying and plotting out plans when there are unknowns and to trust in God, and everything will work out. I would tell myself to schedule time for me, and to write more, as one of my greatest pleasures in life is writing. I would stop hating and becoming upset over people or the actions of others, when you devote energy to hating someone, it only poisons you. I would practice daily gratitude and a minimum of five minutes of prayer daily to thank God for what I do have and release my worries to Him. 

 I also would have encouraged myself to slow down and unplug more, to not put unnecessary pressures on myself to work from home and also, to keep up with social media world. 
I hope you enjoyed reading my answers, I benefited more than I thought I would on answering these thought provoking questions. 

You can buy the above print off of Etsy.  Not an ad, just sourcing image.

Me above enjoying Nova Scotia’s beautiful Peggy’s Cove
Peace and Love – Rachel x

Weeks 3 & 4 on Weight Watchers

I am not sure if the sugar detoxification is over or the worst of it is over, but weeks three & four went much better than anticipated.  I wasn’t as hangry & I am discovering new low smart point snacks and treats.  

For instance, sugar free Jell-O is zero points and it is one of the rare sugar free treats which doesn’t taste “sugar free”.  

Look at the above photo of ultimate decadence; two sugar free Jell-Os for zero points and reduced fat whipped cream, one or two points – cannot beat that!  It satisfies the sweet tooth. 

I have been getting creative in how to stretch my points so making an omelette with one regular egg & then egg whites loaded with vegetables & a bit of feta cheese & smothered in zero SPs salsa, with half my plate loaded with fresh fruit and despite the natural occurring sugars present in fruit- it is a big fat zero for SPs.  

Why have a slice of pizza for 10 or more SPs when you can have a whole pita pizza to yourself for seven or eight points.  Satisfies those wicked late night pizza cravings and feta cheese is always a winner for me.  

So, on week three I dropped 2.4 lbs, but week four I only dropped .9 lbs.  I have lost a total of 8.1 lbs in four weeks, which isn’t so bad.  

Slow & steady right! I am not expecting much for week five as I have been stressed out about some uncertainty in where I will be living.  I will explain more later…

Until next time, I will keep “biting & writing”.  

Peace & love – Rachel 

Week Two – Down Two

I completed my second week of Weight Watchers and I am down an additional two pounds which takes me to a grand total of 4.8 lbs.  I can see the numbers going down on the scale, but my clothing doesn’t feel loose yet; this could be because some of my threads were becoming pretty tight, so I think once I am down ten lbs. I will start to feel it.  

I would love to brag up Weight Watchers and tell you how easy the program is, but for me it has been tough.  My second week was harder than my first week, I attribute this to the false fervor of starting something new & positive for myself & realizing by week two this is going to take some effort to maintain.  

One of the things about Smart Points is you have to make “smart” choices and one substance which really jacks up the points is SUGAR.  

A fun size Mars bar is three Smart Points that is 1/10 of my daily allotment for the day.  Not worth it.

Whereas a cup of fruit is zero Smart Points!  Fruit is the smart choice, but of course when you want a Mars bar, you don’t want to eat fruit.  There is no comparison! 

In my second week I found I was really craving sugar and feeling irritable because of it.  I was also experiencing headaches.  One day at work, I was super bitter because I was feeling deprived (please note I normally eat whatever I want if I am craving it), I had a horrible headache and people’s voices sounded louder than normal.  I am pretty sure I was hangry.  I also believe I was going through sugar withdrawals.  

I survived week two and I lose two more lbs.  I am now beginning week three and I am hopin to lose a bit more this week.  Slow and steady wins the race & I am hoping to cut refined sugar out of my diet as much as I can.  Time will tell! 

Please feel free to join me in my weight loss & becoming physically fit journey.  I could use the support and hey, misery loves company 😉

Peace & love – Rachel 

Here We Go Again…

I have had an on and off again relationship with Weight Watchers for almost a decade. Some may ask why I keep coming back and the answer is simple “It Works!” It works when you follow the plan and you do what you are supposed to do, and “It Really Works” when you don’t go over your daily smart points or use up all your bonus smart points within the week, and you add exercise to your agenda.  

Anyone who follows my blog knows that I have the exercise thing down. I run on a fairly regular basis, and if I am not running, I am usually attending a high intensity aerobics class. Friends and family know how much I exercise; it is almost daily. BUT I love beer, wine and lots of fatty delicious foods. 

 It doesn’t matter if you are exercising like a mad fiend, if you are over eating on a regular basis and binging on your weekends, you are going to gain weight.

 I can attest as the perfect example of how it doesn’t matter how much you exercise, if you are going to eat whatever you like, whenever you like and you enjoy yummy fattening foods, you are going to gain. 


You’ve probably heard the expression which goes like “when losing weight it is 20% exercise and 80% what you eat” – believe it – it is true! Weight Watchers know this truth very well, so well, that you can still lose weight even if you are not at a point where you can exercise, or maybe you’re not at a point where you want to begin an exercise program. 

 It is a beautiful thing, as you can still lose weight with the Smart Points program. If you use your Smart Points (SPs) in a “smart” way, so eat as many fruits and veggies as you can (most are zero points), and drink lots of water, you will feel full and you won’t feel deprived. It is key not to use your smart points on usual habit, for example a muffin from a fast food joint can run up to 13SPs, that is almost half of my points for the day! Forget it man! So, not worth it. 


I just completed week one and it was tough some days, I think my body is going through sugar withdrawals. I am down 2.8 lbs. which I feel a bit disappointed in as I was really good, but slow and steady wins the race.

Funny how we start a weight loss program and hope for a magical drop of ten pounds instantaneously. If I can lose another 2.5 lbs. this next week, I will be down 5 lbs. and that is pretty awesome. Time flies by, so hopefully this weight loss will catch up too.

I will keep you posted as best as I can. I would love it if you come and join me on my weight loss journey; maybe we can do this together, and encourage one another as we move forward onto a better healthy self. 


Cannot take this too seriously!  Right?! 

Peace and love – Rachel


“The True Cost” of Fashion

Yesterday life as I knew it changed for me.  I watched a documentary called “The True Cost” which is on Netflix in Canada right now.  The Director, Andrew Morgan, forewarned me in the film that by watching “The True Cost” it may change me, mostly my ideas on how I shop, where I shop, why I purchase something.  

I think I was happier living in ignorance carrying on with my day to day life, not thinking about how my clothing purchases would impact anyone besides contributing to a not so thriving economy.   I never gave much thought about who was making my clothing or the impact my thrifty ways to find a good deal would have on the world – yes, on the world, not just Canada.  

I was of the mindset that trendy fashions which have a short life span, but may be cute to wear for a season, it was “disposable fashion” like a tissue you blow your nose in & toss away.  And by golly there are heaps of stores which carry cute, on trend and best of all mega cheap threads!  I can wear this non-biodegradable pleather skirt which smells like plastic for 20 bones!  Even if I only wear it once – I felt like I was getting my money’s worth. After all, it is cheap & disposble.  I would never chuck an item in the trash, but I would take a “haul” to the Value Village bin, Red Cross bin or any bin accepting my cast offs.

Above is Lily Melrose who is a fashion blogger from the U.K. showing off a “haul”.

Sadly, only 6% of our cast offs are actually sold in thrift shops, the rest is either burnt, tossed into our landfills or shipped off to countries like Haiti who have most than enough clothing, but could use some help in other ways.  Also, impacting Haitians who work as tailors, as in taking away their business.

I am happy to say though since I gave up my shopaholic ways a few years now & embracing minimalism trying to reduce my wardrobe I have been more thoughtful in my purchases, but I still like a good deal.  Who doesn’t? Joe Fresh was my go to for an inexpensive trendy item to spruce up an old wardrobe, but unless something drastic changes and I know for certain those who are making my clothing are being paid at fair wages & in safe conditions I won’t be occasionally shopping there anymore. 

I don’t want anyone to suffer so that I can look cute.  I know I don’t know these women, and I will probably never meet them, but they are still my sisters in God’s eyes, well, in my eyes and they are human beings.  I live a life of privilege, I assume anyone reading this is in the same boat.

85% of the workers in the garment industry are women. 

The conditions are hot, crowded, and often unsafe. We in North America and Western countries are the drive behind this heinous cheap labour.  We are driving the cost of a garment down, but also the quality of the item, the wages of workers who are so desperate for miserly wages they put their lives at risk so they can make ends meet which I suspect is still a bit short. 

Fast cheap fashion is destroying the earth & we are spreading carcinogenics by supporting it.

Imagine if a friend of yours was working for this cheap & the cost of living may be less than here, but come on now…. These workers are living in poor conditions in addition to working long unruly hours.

3% of clothing is made in the glorious USA.  I suspect it may be the same or less in Canada.  I will need to research this more.

Above from left to right – Colin Firth, Livia Firth & Andrew Morgan.

There is so much more I didn’t cover in this blog.  I want to thank Andrew Morgan the director of “The True Cost” and Livia Firth, Executive Producer for sharing this upsetting yet needed truth. 

Please watch “The True Cost” and let me know how it impacts you.  Trust me, it is good stuff to know!  You can visit the website for more information on “The True Cost” & different options on how you can view the documentary at  

I know I am sounding like a negative Nancy, but I want to share some positive options for shopping yet also address our over consumption issue. If enough people become loud about what is going on in Bangladesh, Cambodia, Thailand and other countries we can make a positive change.  

Me in a Club Monaco top (top is from four years ago not sure if that would be eight seasons ago but still cute), gold necklace is older than me (not saying how old!) which my Mom gave me – still stylish! 

More to come & I promise I will be more upbeat. 

Peace & Love – Rachel

That Dreaded Question “Why are You Single?”

Why are you single has to be one of the most ridiculous questions someone can ask a single person.  There was a time when I started to reply with a variety of answers to show the absurdity of the question itself.  My number one answer was “because I have a personality disorder” and when I did answer honestly it was the same ho hum logical answer which is probably the case for most singletons out there which was “I just haven’t met the right person yet”.  

I would go through stages usually after a stint of a non-successful dating blitz where I honestly believed that being single was better than being coupled (especially when the available candidates were just total dweebs).  

I truly believe the above pic!  Not necessarily the IQ part, but smart women would rather remain single than be with the wrong person.  

Before I met Brian, I was asked constantly “Why are you single?” and perhaps the goal of the people asking were to express their amazement at the fact some man had not scooped me up by now.  The question was predictably offered up at almost any social gathering or running into an old friend, who would start off with the “have you met anyone special yet?”.  Although intentions may have been genuinely good, I felt disheartened, discouraged and annoyed too.  I began to wonder if perhaps there was something exceptionally wrong with me which I was unaware of, like did I have some bizarre tick no one would tell me about, or did I have turrets and was word vomiting a flurry of profanities completely unbeknownst to myself.  Why was I single?  What was wrong with me?  Why was I only capable of attracting jerks?  Am I boring? Do I sound unintelligent when I speak? Do I sound like Donald Duck when I speak? Someone tell me what is wrong with me? 

Asking someone why are you single is really none of their business.  

It is similar to asking someone “why don’t you have any children? or when are you planning to have children?”.   You have no clue what maybe going on with a married couple, or what challenges a couple may be encountering trying to conceive.  Not to mention not all couples want to have children! 

I know some people want to make small talk, and most of us do have a love life of some sort, but it is not an enjoyable topic for singles to engage in.  

I can totally relate to the above statement too.  I was single for YEARS and/or in drama filled dead end relationships until I met Brian.  

For those who may read this who are single, just know you are not solo in being asked this typical unoriginal question.  Many mean well by it, despite it sounding similar to nails down a chalk board.  If you are single and happy about your situation then embrace it and exclaim it, as love does come quickly and unexpectedly.  

So do not miss online dating…  I am not boasting.  Trust me, I put my time in and how! 

Stay strong, be bold and use your words. 

Peace & Love x Rachel 

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