The past couple of blogs have been going over red flags I encountered with online dating and most specifically to men as this is where my experience lies. The truth of the matter is I don’t have all the answers and it took me a long time, and a lot of dates with a lot of men before I landed with the man I am with now.  

Unfortunately, there is no secret to decoding or deciphering  what a person will be like until you meet them.  In addition, I also believe it takes a long time to truly get to know someone.  Generally speaking, the first few dates you will be on your best behavior as will the person you are dating.


No matter how swell you may get along online, the only way you will know if there is a real connection is meeting in person. A personality can come through via messages and texting, and often it is not the persona which disappoints than it is the attraction or chemistry. 


Chemistry is either there or it isn’t and that is an unfortunate truth.  You can adore someone’s personality and they can make you laugh until you cry, but sometimes you get the brother vibe or an ick feeling. I am not even sure if chemistry has anything to do with appearances or attractiveness; it may be more complicated and like a blending of flavors, it can work or it can be awful, or be bland. Again, the only way to figure whether or not there is chemistry is to meet. 


Women can be just as bad as men when it comes to being shallow, being shady and having a less than desirable agenda in mind. Many profiles are full of fibs and falsehoods sprinkled with exaggerations to increase the amount of hits. It is true. You have to be careful and you have to take each profile with a grain of salt. Again, meeting in person will put a lot to rest.   

Be careful, I personally liked to know a bit about a person before I met them in person.  As a woman, I want to make sure a person is legit. If I could obtain a first name and last name – damn straight I would google that person to make sure he was who he said he was. I don’t believe knowing this information is invasive. You don’t have to be Face Book friends, but you should be able to see that the person is who they say they are. 


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The reality of online dating is you are going to have more misses than hits.  Some days you will wonder why you bother. Yet, many do find love today via online dating. It isn’t the only means to meeting someone new too. Just view it as one more tool or aide in possibly finding the right person for you. There are lots of nice and attractive guys out there as there are women, you just have to keep trying as all it takes is one.

Peace & Love – Rachel

Published by You Know Jacques!

Living in beautiful Nova Scotia. Blogging about everything under the sun from social injustices, minimalism & the corruption of over consumerism, traveling the world & experiencing different cultures, mental health issues, diet, dating, book/restaurant/product reviews and social issues. I hope to encourage and inspire being authentic as I can be. I hope you enjoy what I have to share and please feel free to drop me a line.

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