A common question you may hear among singles is the question “Do you Tinder?”. Well, I do Tinder and I give it two enthusiastic thumbs up! I have found “Tindering” to be most delightful.
Yes, it has the reputation of being a tool for picking up, but many of the profiles are looking for a relationship, or looking to date. Of course there are also married men on there looking for an extramarital affair, but they usually self identify and do not post a picture. Lots of the men on this application say they are not looking to “hook up” and some say they are looking for a good time. I am not looking for a good time; I am looking for something more meaningful, and I include this in my brief write up.
Onto my next point, all you have to do is create a profile which takes less than five minutes, it is connected to Facebook, which will pull your first name (which I believe is changeable), maximum of five photos (or less if you prefer). It will also pull your write up on yourself from your Facebook profile, which is also amendable, and I believe there is a character limit, so you don’t have to read any long profile descriptions nor do have to create a long winded soliloquy. Plus, it does not advertise in your Facebook feed that you are using Tinder. At my age there is no shame, hence this blog!
The best part of Tinder is no one can contact you unless you like them; there has to be a mutual “like”. The fine feature of allowing only those I have swiped right to be able contact me is grand. So, that means no shirtless guys flexing their muscles in front of a mirror with their toilet in the background will be contacting me with a brief “hey, how’s it going?”. FYI, I hate that question, be original people!!!
Another added bonus is I have met some great guys through Tinder. One guy is now one of my closest friends. I met a man from NYC who was visiting Halifax, and we have stayed in touch. Not only are you able to meet peeps who live close to you, if someone is visiting from Germany lets say, or you’re visiting another province or country, you can “Tinder“. Of course, use your discretion and be careful, there are always going to be individuals who do not have good intentions, and looking for a victim. Be smart about who you meet, and always investigate.
Again, part of the appeal is I can read a profile and say, no (swipe left), not for me, or I can say yes (swipe right). It is quick, easy, and probably most realistic outside of meeting someone out in the real world. It is a lot less stressful than being on a dating site and having to block people who continually contact you despite your obvious lack of interest or if you’re kind, explaining how you’re not interested. I say Tinder on and you never know what “Tinder Surprise” awaits you!